To some families, getting back into the school routine can provide comfort and stability. For families going through a divorce, even attempting to create a routine can be frustrating or even impossible. Many divorced couples get so caught up in navigating their own emotional minefields that they underestimate the effect their separation is having on other important members of the family — their kids. The amount of data from psychologists, therapists, and even lawyers on children of divorce is overwhelming. Yet, it all feels so geared toward the parents. When it comes to returning to school after a family divorce, what do the kids want?
During a study conducted by the BBC, researchers gave cameras to 21 children of divorce and asked them to record their feelings regarding their parents’ separation. One of the children, Rufus, explained that at times, “It’s like [I am] a toy for them to play with that they have to share.” To prevent your child from feeling like Rufus, my team here at Atlanta Divorce Law Firm recommends that you and your co-parent focus on planning, coordination, and communication this upcoming school year. We understand that when it comes to supporting your kids during their extracurricular activities this fall, the idea of seeing and interacting with your ex-spouse might be the last thing you want to do, but for the sake of the kids’ well-being, we suggest that you try to set aside any lingering frustrations from the marriage in order to create a co-parenting relationship that makes your children feel supported and welcome.
That being said, if you have found that your co-parent hasn’t acted in accordance with the arranged custody agreement, or they won’t communicate or effectively co-parent with you, please feel free to contact our office. Our attorneys understand the significance of these custody arrangements and can help create a plan that will consider the best interests of both the children and parents. Call today at 678-798-8093 to learn more.
