What Does Family Mean to Me?
You can have a biological family and a chosen family. Sometimes they include both, and other times they don’t include your biological family. I think what’s really important is that they’re the people you hold close, who celebrate your joys with you and hold you up when you’re down.
2 of the most important women in my life were Aunty Gayle and Aunty Rosemary, even though we aren’t related by blood. They helped raise me, and I think of Aunty Gayle’s sons as my brothers. I’m grateful I grew up in an extended family where everyone cared for each other.
My daughter is the most important person in my world. I was very young when I had her and was a single mom for her entire childhood. We are extremely close, and she inspires me daily to be a better person.
My Favorite HAPPILY EVER AFTER DIVORCE ® Story
Years ago, I had a client in a long custody battle. He and his ex had been in and out of court for years. His older son was 14 and could choose to live with his dad, but his younger daughter was only 8 and had always lived with her mom.
They divorced when the daughter was just a year old, but her mom didn’t want her dad involved. She wouldn’t let the kids join extracurricular activities because she knew their dad might be there, limiting the kids’ growth because of her disdain for him. It was a tough case, since it’s rare for fathers to get custody of young girls.
For about a year and a half, we worked hard to show the court that living with her dad was best for her—and we won. It was a great moment.
One of the reasons I’d say this is a success story is that 2 years ago, he invited me to that little girl’s high school graduation. He reaches out to me at least once a year to let me know how his kids are doing. This makes everything I do worth it. Making a difference in someone else’s life so they can have a happier, healthier childhood makes my school loans worth it.