If you have children; make sure your holiday parenting plan is in place well ahead of time: Ensuring that both you and your ex-spouse are on the same page with the children’s schedule will reduce a lot of stress and heated emotions during the holidays.
Spend time with your family: Be intentional about spending some time with your family – whether it’s with your children, your own siblings, your parents, or your close friends. Having a strong family support system always makes the holidays more enjoyable.
Create new traditions: The holidays are a good time to start new traditions. It creates a sense of belonging and family. If you have kids, let them be involved in deciding what you are going to do.
Do something for others: There are so many ways to serve others and so many people in need. Find a local event or charity to participate in and get involved. Take any anxiety or sadness you have about the holidays and turn it into something positive.
Do something for yourself: Everyone deserves a little pampering. Schedule a massage. Go out for a nice meal. Do something you enjoy!Do not make any major decisions: Holidays often bring with them a lot of emotions. Making a major decision in the midst of that emotion may not be the best thing for you and your family. If it’s something that can wait until next year, then let it.
Acknowledge your feelings and losses: There is nothing wrong with feeling sad or angry or lonely during the holidays. If it’s your first holiday after the divorce, you are going to feel moments of grief over what you have lost. That is okay. It’s important is to feel those feelings but not get lost in them. This is why it’s so important to stay connected with loved ones during the holiday. Don’t be afraid to lean on them for support.